Have you ever done or said something that you wish you could take back? Wouldn’t it be great if you could hit a “rewind” button and change what happened? That isn’t possible, it is possible to reduce caregiver stress by giving yourself a Do-Over. 

Start with acknowledging what you did. Apologize, if appropriate. Make amends, and then let it go. Don’t spend energy berating yourself, and don’t allow others to heap guilt and shame on you.  

Understand that as a caregiver, you will get tired and frustrated. You won’t always react to situations the way you wish you could. In fact, getting angry could be a sign that something is wrong. Maybe you need to set better boundaries, get some physical exercise, or perhaps you’re in need of a good night’s sleep. 

Try to determine what set you off, and then do something for yourself that will bring you a little joy or pleasure. Taking care of yourself could reduce feelings of resentment, which may also decrease the frequency of angry flare-ups followed by feelings of guilt.

Thought for the Day 

"I want always to be loving and kind, but I am not a saint. When I do or say something I wish I could take back, I will give myself a Do-Over and try to do better next time. I will give myself a fresh start."